My own Rules for Success
4. be patience with others
6. do not be cocky
7. commit to your goal
8. think globally
9. improve yourself
10. be friendly
self-esteem is how we value ourselves, it is how we perceive our value to the world and how valuable we think we are to others. Self-esteem affects our trust in others, our relationships, our work-nearly every part of our lives. positive self-esteem gives us the strength and flexibility to take charge of our lives and grow from our mistakes without to fear of rejection. Feelings of low self-esteem often build up over a lifetime, and letting go of ingrained feelings and behaviors is not an easy task. it may take time, hard work, and it may require professional counseling. But there are some simple, positive thinking techniques that can be used to help improve self-esteem. These are called affirmations.
Creativity simple means to come up with something new, if you can do that, not only can you enrich your own personal life, but you'll have an advantage in whatever field you enter. you just need to recognize your creativity. also creativity means think outside of the box, some people are naturally more creative than others,but creative thinking can be strengthened with practice. you can practice creative thinking by solving riddles, by becoming aware of and letting go of your assumptions, and through play anything unstructured and relaxing. creative people can devise new way to carry out tasks. solve problems and meet challenges.
responsibility in
order to satisfy it. For example, in a family situation, one of the
children may be given the responsibility of taking care of the family
pet. The exact guidelines of what has to be done to take care of the pet
should be clearly laid out so that the child knows exactly what the
responsibility involves and can fulfill it satisfactorily. Shirking
responsibilities usually involves some sort of consequences. For the
child not doing his duty of caring for the pet, a parent may deny access
to television or video games for a certain period of time.
Wisdom is most
commonly referred to as a characteristic in a person who acts using
common sense, experience and understanding. Wisdom is something that is
gained over a long period of time. In classical literature, those who
are wise are typically very old, very calm and very intelligent. Wisdom
can mean that an individual has a lot of knowledge on one or a multitude
of subjects, or simply that one knows how to act when in a certain
situation.
finding and clarifying your life purpose and core life indentations can
help you to move with greater focus and clarity every day of your life.
There are many ways to both find and develop your life purpose and
intentions. Purpose is a bigger word. Purpose is is personal and is who
you are. In business terms, purpose is all about your mission. Every
person , team , organization needs a reason for being. When we lack
purpose , we don't know what we're doing. Lacking is a goal is less
serious, but still matters. A goal is something we strive for that
should be aligned with our purpose. Reaching our goal will help us
accomplish our purpose.
Communication is about more than just exchanging information. It's about
understanding the emotion and intentions behind the information.
Effective communication is also a two-way street. It’s not only how you
convey a message so that it is received and understood by someone in
exactly the way you intended, it’s also how you listen to gain the full
meaning of what’s being said and to make the other person feel heard and
understood.
Faith is not only religious but also it refers to a relationship we all
have with knowledge. When someone believes in something that is not the
reasonable and logical thing to assume, they use the word "faith" to
defend themselves. You have to have trust or confidence in someone or
something. You have to have faith and be confidence about your goals and
one day you will accomplish them because you are having faith and being
patient and having a positive mind. Faith shows the reality of what we
hope for it is evidence of things we cannot see.
Being willing and able to adapt your behavior increases your ability to communicate and build relationships with other people. our level of adaptability can be stronger in some situations than
others. For example, we tend to be more adaptable at work with people we
know less, and less adaptable at home with people we know better. Developing your adaptability allows you to understand how different
types of people would like to be treated. It does not mean imitating the
other person’s behavior. It does mean adjusting your behavior to be
more in line with the other person’s preferences.
Perseverance is the ability and self control that pushes you to work
through challenges. Having perseverance means that when you are facing a
challenge, you use your mind and your body to overcome it. Perseverance
means you are able to wait and work through difficulties, whether they
have to do with your mind, your body, or your emotions.
Sometimes we work hard and don’t meet our goals, but knowing we did the
best we could do gives us a sense of pride and self confidence. If you
had quit, not only would you definitely not have made the team, but you
wouldn't even have had the satisfaction of knowing you tried your
hardest. Instead of feeling the pride of having done your best, you
would have felt the emptiness of not even trying.
perspective is an approach to psychology that emphasizes empathy
and stresses the good in human behavior. In politics and social theory,
this approach calls for human rights and equality. In counseling and
therapy, this approach allows an psychologist to focus on ways to help
improve an individual’s self-image or self-actualization – the things
that make them feel worthwhile. 

Relaxed alertness is when a learner is put into a state of being where
they feel comfortable yet experience a high level of challenge.
Experiencing relaxed alertness often starts out with students experiencing
small successes, but after multiple successes- it becomes a way of
thinking and learning that seems natural for the student. When relaxed
alertness becomes a way of life for a student, it's actually easier for
them to learn new things.Students who experience relaxed alertness believe in themselves and
always want to challenge themselves to be better than the day before.
They also bounce back easily from failures; possibly because of their
confidence based on previous successes.
what this means is to take the chance
to do something and if you fail its okay .next time do it better that
the last .never say i cant i will fail because it is okay it fail as
long as you learn from it.we all have failed at one point in our life .
but that doesn't make us any less of what or who we are . failing is a
part of growing up . if don't fail then you wont grow as a person . we
all feel scared when we have a chance even if its a small chance of
failing .and i will tell you again its okay to fail .there is going to
be a time you try again you wont fail no more and you make all the fail
worth it.
Sincerity means being honest and straightforward without any pretense,
misrepresentation, or deceit. Being a more sincere person can refer to
how you interact with others, but ultimately sincerity must begin within
yourself. Learning to recognize your thoughts and feelings can help you
become a more genuine person, which in turn can help you become more
sincere in your dealings with others. Sincere people tend to remain positive
in social situations and actively seek to know more about other people, Using body language, touch and maintaining eye contact, sincere people
exude confidence and genuine interest in the ideas, opinions and
feelings of others. Sincere people also accept personal failure and do
not feel afraid to discuss these failures.
People with adaptability are both flexible and versatile. Of course,
our level of adaptability can be stronger in some situations than
others. For example, we tend to be more adaptable at work with people we
know less, and less adaptable at home with people we know better. In
addition, research shows that people view themselves as more flexible
and versatile than they actually are. That’s because we all aspire to
those behaviors, and we judge ourselves on how we intend to act as well
as on how we do act.
Personal skills are critical to almost any job. Someone with strong
personal skills generally works well with employers, employees,
colleagues, clients, and vendors. They can communicate ideas clearly,
and listen well to others. Someone with strong person skills also
typically has a positive attitude in the workplace. This is critical to
creating a strong company culture. They also bring success to
their companies. They are often responsible employees that people can
rely on for help, and they meet deadlines and complete tasks. People
with strong personal skills are also often motivated and passionate
about their work, which contributes to their success.
Team spirit can make or break a team. Teammates who have team spirit are
better able to work together and achieve team goals. They are also more
satisfied with their team activities. Cooperating is simply working together as teammates for the good of the
team. Cooperation is a skill that team members can sharpen during
practice. Team members must fulfill their duties with 110% of their effort.
Staying motivated shows team spirit because it shows that you want the
team to do well. This includes being motivated to give your best in
practice and in competition, as well as outside of team activities. Respect for your fellow team members is a must. You can show respect to
your teammates by treating everyone fairly and equally. Teammates also
respect each other by allowing everyone to participate. Respecting
fellow teammates keeps everyone in a good mood and encourages overall
team spirit.
A person who is considered honest is one who displays integrity, is
genuine and not deceptive or fraudulent. Honesty is characterized by
truth and sincerity. Honesty denotes the quality of being upright in
principle and action. Honesty implies truthfulness, fairness in dealing
with others, and refusal to engage in fraud, deceit, or dissembling. The opposite trait is dishonesty, where you may lie, steal or deceive
another person. But also, it is possible to be too honest, where what
you say can hurt another feelings.
Resourcefulness is not a means of coping with deprivation; it can be a
virtue that opens the door to greater accomplishment. Based on my
observations of what resourceful leaders do, here are some suggestions
for being resourceful. Resourcefulness is about optimizing what you have to work with.
Innovation is not just about creating something new; it also applies to
making old things work better. Resourcefulness, while critical now, should not be reserved just for
hard times. When prosperity returns, relying on one’s ability to do more
with existing resources and lead people to do the same will be a
virtuous behavior.
Self-Confidence refers to absurdness in your own worth, abilities and power,
regardless of the situation you are in. Someone who is self confident
has a strong sense of belief and certainty in himself/herself. He/she
exudes calmness, composure and is self-aware. Self-confidence is often linked with possessing of certain knowledge,
skill sets or abilities, whether it is acquired or innate. While having
aptitude in a particular area can help bolster your self-worth, it is
not a necessary prerequisite for self confidence. Someone with
absolutely no competency in something can still be self-confident. We
will discuss this in detail in the later half of the article.
The term reliability in psychological research refers to the consistency of a research study or measuring test.For
example, if a person weighs themselves during the course of a day they
would expect to see a similar reading. Scales which measured weight
differently each time would be of little use.The same analogy could be applied to a tape measure which measures
inches differently each time it was used. It would not be considered
reliable.If findings from research are replicated consistently
they are reliable. A correlation coefficient can be used to assess the
degree of reliability.
Goal setting can easily become camouflaged vanity. Self-focused,
self-centered, and self-serving. Now, many goals do require personal
improvement and an intentional focus on one’s behavior. However, goal
setting is never about the goal; it’s about who will benefit from the
results of the goal being accomplished. For some cases, that’s solely
the individual. For others, it’s their family, their spouse, and their
relationships.
A real love for the hard battle, knowing it offers the opportunity to
be at your best when your best is required. What it Means It means that
in hard competition enjoy a challenge and be competitive. Your Turn Do
you have any examples of Competitive Greatness Game Play
Rock,Paper,Scissors with 4 friends. Be sure to do your best."If
you are a leader, you must teach your team to love the struggle because
only in hard competition will you, and they, find Competitive
Greatness"
Integrity means following your moral or ethical
convictions and doing the right thing in all circumstances, even if no
one is watching you. Having integrity means you are true to yourself and
would do nothing that demeans or dishonors you. Integrity is one of the fundamental values
that employers seek in the employees that they hire. It is the hallmark
of a person who demonstrates sound moral and ethical principles at work.
A person who has integrity lives his or her values in relationships with coworkers, customers, and stakeholders.
The power of faith and belief is real power. Believing that you can
attain your goal is of great importance for its achievement. Without
faith, there will be doubts and disbelief, which lead to non-doing and
to non-achievement. Faith draws and attracts what you want into your
life, whereas doubts, worries and disbelief push them away. Faith in this sense equals belief and certainty that you can achieve
your goal. This kind of belief and faith strengthen the motivation to
act and do things, and helps you maintain the positive attitude
necessary for success. Faith is important, but alone it is not
enough for success. You also need willpower, discipline and persistence.
You also need to take positive action to show your faith.
the actual practice of patience is another character trait, that has fallen by the wayside in society today. Our hurried, over-scheduled in culture where everything must happen immediately is taking its toll on our willingness to be patient and work things out. Instead, we often spend minutes or even hours, several times a day in a state practice in impatience because things are not happening fast enough . we want to get it done.